27 July 2018


Criticism is the favorite pastime for most of the people. But do all those who face it, take it the right way or all the criticism’s right? Criticism is beyond the understanding of many. It always lies in the eye of the beholder. The one who has faced it a lot is the one who has achieved great heights.

People at times, mistake criticism for judgement. They are two opposite poles. Though criticism at times involves judgement, it need not always be. It can sometimes be a disproval, a feedback, or even an answer to an unanswered question. It is one of the best ways to improve thyself.

Criticisms can be classified majorly into two types-Constructive and Destructive. Constructive or positive criticism in many ways will be helpful in moulding the character of a person. If the correct feedback is given from the right person at the right time, it would greatly help us in improving our interpersonal skills.

But how to face destructive or negative criticism? Never take criticism personally. If at all you are offended by it, reply to it by proving them wrong through your actions. Negative criticism should never be the reason for a pull-down in life. Rather they should be the stepping stones. Let’s take an example, do book authors or movie directors stop writing or directing right after they are being hit hard by negative criticisms? NO. Instead, they raise their bars and surpass the expectations. “To err is human, to forgive, divine”. The moment when criticism hurts your feeling or character, it is time to walk away from the one who delivered an offensive criticism and show them that you are much stronger than them in all ways. It isn’t even wrong to remind them that you possess the ability to forgive them for their recklessness.

Occasionally, even negative criticism needs to be analyzed. We can take a step back, see what we have done and know why the person criticized us. It may in several ways make us learn a little about how others perceive us and generally criticism also reflects a bit of our character from the other person’s point of view. To conclude, criticism is ‘right’ when it concerns personal development, ‘wrong’ when it hurts our feeling and ‘beyond’ when it comes to the assessment of our character.

By Sakthi Chandini